SELF-CARE. This is a topic I’ve wanted to write about for a while because it is so hugely important, yet life gets in the way, we get busy, and somehow this gets placed on the back burner.
I love the quote….
I think one of the biggest misconceptions is that by practicing self-care, you are being selfish. It literally couldn’t be further from the truth. Unless your cup is full, you are in no place to help others, whether that means being a good coworker, mother, father, daughter, son, friend, spouse… you name it.
That being said, self-care is something I take very seriously in my own life. I struggle with anxiety, and when I neglect my self-care, it really manifests negatively into my life and usually causes a downward spiral. Also, being in the Hospitality business, it’s important for me to be as cheerful as possible, and in order to do that, I need to be taking care of myself first. In my house, I call them “Victoria days”. When I’m having a “Victoria day”, my family knows that I want to be left alone to recuperate and get myself ready for the following week.
To me, self-care is so much more than a hot bubble bath and face masks (although this can be a LOVELY part of it). Self-care is getting yourself organized and in a good mindset, so that you can be the best version of yourself. Self-care is also not a one-time deal, that you can just check off your to-do list and be done with. Self-care needs to be practiced on a daily basis, so that it becomes second nature. By taking the time to tend to your body, mind, and soul, you will reap the benefits in your overall mood, and everyday life. Below, I will share with you some of my self-care rituals and habits. Try them for yourself and see what happens. If you have any questions or comments, I’d love it if you share them with me below!
I meditate at night, usually for 15 minutes, however it’s totally up to you when you choose to do this. Lots of people choose to spend the first five minutes of their day doing a meditation. It is a great way to naturally relax and clear your mind. I love the app. Headspace. I just find it so calming, and it always helps me to end my day on a positive and peaceful note (plus it helps with falling asleep).
get enough sleep-
I am the biggest advocate of sleep. Admittedly, I probably sleep longer than I should, however, I notice the biggest change in my mood when I am lacking a good nights rest. I think the amount of sleep each of us needs can differ, but you know your body, so listen to it and get those Zzzz’s.
For me, I feel so much better when I’m eating lots of fruits and vegetables, and drinking a ton of water. I’m known to get busy, and then toss all of my good eating habits for a poutine or pasta- something quick (which I always regret). Instead, I TRY to meal prep one day each week so that I have ready-to-eat meals for the week. See my recipe section for quick and healthy ideas.
You don’t have to be a writer in order to benefit from journaling. Keeping track of your emotions is so key to eliminating negative self-talk and paying attention to sub-conscious thoughts you never even knew you had. I always find that when I do a quick journal entry, I usually feel a lot more centered and in control of my emotions. The other thing that has been proven successful time and time again, is to practice gratitude. At the beginning and end of your day, try to jot down 3 things you are grateful for. See how quickly that will change your mood.
Getting active can be anything you choose. Just something to get the endorphins going. Hit up the gym, walk your dog, rollerblade, bike. It’s totally up to you. Personally, I stay active by walking my dog and practicing yoga. I have practiced yoga on and off for years, in a studio and at home. When I practice at home, I ALWAYS follow Yoga with Adriene. She’s AMAZING- Check her out!
Focus on your living space. I love the quote by Marie Kondo, where she says, “Anxiety arises from not being able to see the whole picture. If you feel anxious, but are not sure why, try putting your things in order.” Everyone deserves a sanctuary, so why not make your living space your very own? Again, this is totally personal based on your preferences. I love having my lights dim, lighting candles, making my bed every single day, and putting on my fairy lights. Something as simple as having a neat and beautiful living space can totally shift your mood.
I recently took a two-week break from all Social Media. I found it very beneficial, because I knew I was too addicted to mindlessly scrolling and comparing myself to others. You don’t necessarily need to do this in order to unplug, though. Try just putting your phone in a different room for a few hours, especially when you go on walks or when you eat meals. Be mindful, and actually enjoy your food and conversations.
I won’t lie, I try to do this AT LEAST once a week. I make a full night of my pampering, and I LOVE IT. It’s probably my favourite day of the week. I light candles or put on my diffuser, dim my lights, have a hot shower (you could have a bubble bath, if that is more your thing), get into comfy PJS, and do my skin care routine. I will take the time to apply my favourite face masks, give myself a pedicure, and have a nice glass of wine (or more.. let’s be honest). The point is, relish in this ritual. This is YOU time. You should make it as luxurious as possible. Do the things that make YOU feel amazing!
Let me know down below what you like to do for self-care!