Dealing With Change

Over the past three months, I have been through a lot of changes.. mostly work related. Change is inevitable. Unfortunately, although change is actually very beneficial, it can also be completely scary and uncomfortable. I’m the kind of person that does not do well with uncomfortable feelings. For a long time, one of my biggest downfalls has been trying to resist these uncomfortable feelings by avoiding them at all costs. This clearly hasn’t worked out for me in the past, so I am trying to look at things in a different way now.

Over the last few months, I’ve learned a lot about how to deal with change and how to embrace the uncomfortable side of it as well as how to appreciate the benefits. That’s what I am going to briefly discuss today.

Whether the change you are going through is work, relationship or just general life related, change is going to happen whether we like it or not. Learning to adapt and accept change is one of the most important things that has happened to me in a long time. As I mentioned, the change I’ve experienced is work related and is actually VERY positive, however still scary, and not exactly as I “planned”. Up until July of this year, I was working in a position that I was unhappy in, however I was very comfortable. I stayed because it was a five minute drive from my house, I was friends with most of my colleagues, and my work was very predictable for the most part. I lost my passion and because of this, I decided to make a complete career change at the age of twenty-five, deviating from all of the “PLANS” I’d made for myself. I’d planned to be in Management for quite a while, so when I decided that this wasn’t truly making me happy, I was crushed, however I knew I needed to adjust and try a different route in the Hospitality sector.

I’m now in a job that I’m slowly but surely getting the hang of, and am totally loving. The first month was hard on me but I’m so glad it was, because I feel that I’ve learned so much and grown from the uncomfortable experience. Learning to commute to work (1.5 hour commute each way instead of 5 minutes), learning a brand new role,  learning about a city I previously knew almost nothing about, meeting all new coworkers, and adjusting to a new company, were all hurdles for me. I’m the type of person that actively looks for roles that I know I’ll do well in, because I’m a perfectionist. I get completely insane when I don’t know how to do things immediately. This was a huge learning curve for me because I was, and am, a complete rookie in this role and I had to quite literally learn everything from the ground up.  I was resistant to the change at first, and miserable for feeling so lousy at my job, but quickly realized that unless I embraced the changes, I would continue to be in unhappy situations and would not grow.

The other main lesson I learned through all of this has to do with realizing that you don’t have to always have everything “planned”. For the majority of my life, I’ve been a dedicated planner. I planned out weekly goals, yearly goals, life goals. You name it. I thought I had to have a LIFE PLAN at all times. Turns out, life doesn’t work that way. I actually can’t believe that it took me twenty five years to figure that out.. but better late than never. As great as I still believe it is to have goals, I have had to learn to let go of control and allow life to unfold the way it is meant to. I know now that I cannot decide or plan the course of my life, because things are going to constantly change and happen the way they are meant to. Throughout this entire experience, I have also learned that IT’S OKAY TO CHANGE YOUR MIND. It’s okay to not know what is going to come next. It’s okay to not be perfect and to accept that things take TIME. This is how we grow as individuals. 

Another area of my life where I have experienced a lot of change recently is with my friendships and relationships with others. I have had a hard time letting go of relationships that were not healthy for me for a long time. Recently however, I have been very busy and have been realizing that I don’t NEED to dedicate my time to those that I no longer connect with. It’s been a long time coming, for sure. But I finally realize that I don’t need to hold onto my past. 

I’m very excited for the future, and am so thankful for all that this experience in my life has taught me so far. Although change is never easy, I’m glad that I am going through major changes because I know I am learning something new each step of the way and will continue to try to embrace the changes that come my way. As I’m writing this, I know there are even more completely vital life changes I need to make and I’m so excited to make them too.

As always, have an excellent week and I will talk to you on Sunday!

xo

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” Neale Donald Walsch